What Kind of Romantic Are You?

Personality Test: Romantic Style

According to Dr. Harold K. Fink and E. W. Burgess, who each studied thousands of couples, relationships thrive when romance and realism stay in healthy balance. Sustaining love takes both heart and good sense.

Take this research-inspired quiz to see what kind of romantic you are.

  1. As a teenager, you had lots of short romances.

    • TRUE
    • FALSE

  2. You’ve fallen in love at first sight at least twice.

    • TRUE
    • FALSE

  3. You feel good when others see you with an attractive partner.

    • TRUE
    • FALSE

  4. Around someone you’re attracted to, you try extra hard to show your best side.

    • TRUE
    • FALSE

  5. You prefer reading fiction.

    • TRUE
    • FALSE

  6. In books or movies, you choose love stories over comedies.

    • TRUE
    • FALSE

  7. You prefer to kiss with your eyes closed.

    • TRUE
    • FALSE

  8. Your desire for romance grows strongest…

    • When the lights are low
    • Anytime
    • Only in bed

  9. During the day, you often daydream about being intimate with your partner.

    • TRUE
    • FALSE

  10. You find it silly when middle-aged or older couples kiss and cuddle in public.

    • TRUE
    • FALSE

  11. You feel a bit embarrassed if your partner kisses you on the lips in front of strangers.

    • TRUE
    • FALSE

  12. Watching couples passionately kiss in public makes you uncomfortable.

    • TRUE
    • FALSE

  13. You’d be very upset to lose a sentimental gift from your partner.

    • TRUE
    • FALSE

  14. When gifting your partner, you’d rather choose flowers or perfume than a book, a CD, or a scarf.

    • TRUE
    • FALSE

  15. You always keep a photo of your partner in your wallet or bag.

    • TRUE
    • FALSE

  • You scored points

    Ice-Cold Realist

    Reserved person looking distant You’re a no-nonsense realist who sees the world as it is. There’s little room for dreamy gestures, and you can come off as chilly when it’s time for overt romance. Try letting a little warmth melt the ice—you might enjoy it.

    What this measures Beyond your overall romance level, these items hint at five traits of romantic personality: (1) desire for closeness, (2) identity, (3) imagination, (4) need for contact, and (5) sentimentality.

  • You scored points

    Head in the Clouds, Feet on the Ground

    Balanced person smiling with a bouquet You blend realism and romance. You know when to add affection and when to set healthy limits. You enjoy sweetness without drifting too far from reality.

    What this measures These items reflect five romantic traits: closeness, identity, imagination, need for contact, and sentimentality.

  • You scored points

    Where Are the Flowers?

    Hopeless romantic holding roses You’re an unabashed romantic who craves warmth and affection. You color everyday life with idealism and big feelings—and yes, love songs are your jam.

    What this measures The quiz also taps five romantic traits: closeness, identity, imagination, need for contact, and sentimentality.