What’s Your Relationship With Intimacy?

Personality Test: Intimacy

Emotional closeness supports well-being and helps relationships thrive. While needs vary across people and couples, understanding how you give and receive intimacy—time together, affection, empathy, and support—can improve connection and satisfaction.

This quick quiz explores your approach to intimacy. Answer with your current or most recent partner in mind—and feel free to share it with them.

  1. How much of your free time do you share with your partner?

  2. How often do you feel physical affection is important?

  3. Would you feel hurt if your partner refused to share deep feelings?

  4. Do you understand your partner’s deeper feelings?

  5. How much support do you offer when your partner feels down?

  6. Do you show your partner a lot of affection?

  7. Do you feel close to your partner?

  8. After a serious disagreement, how much strain lingers between you?

  9. How much time do you spend on your own, without your partner?

  10. Overall, how satisfied are you with your relationship?

  11. After a heated argument, do you feel physically unwell?

  12. Do your arguments last more than two days?

  • You scored points

    Running Cool

    Couple with low closeness Your current level of intimacy is on the low side. That can work if both partners prefer more space—but if it feels unsatisfying, it may signal difficulty sharing, seeking, or sustaining closeness. A supportive outside perspective could help.

    Context — This quiz is inspired by research on social and relational intimacy. Marriage or commitment can increase closeness, but mismatched intimacy styles can also create strain. Unhappy couples typically report low intimacy scores; small skills practiced consistently (curiosity, reassurance, quality time) can lift them.

  • You scored points

    About Average

    Average intimacy Compared to others, your relationship shows a moderate level of intimacy. There’s a healthy baseline of connection with room to deepen it intentionally.

    Context — Intimacy grows through frequent small bids for connection and responsive care. Look for items you rated lower to find quick wins.

  • You scored points

    It’s INTENSE!

    High intimacy couple You enjoy a very close bond. One thing to watch for: some highly connected partners can feel extra sensitive to perceived distance. Naming needs clearly helps keep things balanced.

    Context — High intimacy can be a strength when it’s mutual and flexible. Keep boundaries and individual time in the mix to sustain harmony.